frenemy

I really didn't think I subscribed to this. But, I, believe I unwittingly, became apart of a "frenemy" relationship. Luckily, this wasn’t a person I really associated with outside of the office. I always considered our relationship to be one that was just office related; talking, laughing, sometimes lunch or drinks after. And because we talked and laughed and worked closely together, and there was never any competition or jealousy on my part, I assumed we had a “work friendship” – one that existed in the office and if this person really needed me outside of that, I’d have been there, but it was a friendship, nonetheless. Slowly, I began to see her true personality emerge.

1) manipulative - going out to lunch with people, ordering the most expensive thing on the menu and then saying, “oh, I don’t have any money.” WHO THE EFF does that?!?!?!

2) jealousy – if I was in a conversation with someone else in the office, she’d come wandering in wanting to know what we were talking about, interject her opinions and of course, she always knew EVERYTHING there was to know about EVERYTHING.

3) gossip girl – I’m talking high school here, talking trash about everyone behind their backs, of course I could only wonder what was being said behind mine.

4) social climber – befriending those that she thought could get her something better and turning her back on those that helped her get where she was.

5) total instability – you never knew what you were going to get, most days she was fine, but there were those days was totally unapproachable! I don’t mean “someone’s having a case of the Monday’s” type mood, think more along the lines of “psycho – stab you in the shower” type moods, yelling and screaming and crying.

This person no longer works with us, regardless I felt horribly that she didn’t have a job and tried to keep in touch, offering my recommendation, etc. She would text intermittently about nothing and that was it. Then it hit me one day, how I never thought I’d met one of “those” women. One capable of creating and being in a “frenemy” relationship; one who was willing to do anything to get ahead, even if it meant stepping on others, one with such a sense of entitlement and most importantly, one who has NO idea that anything she does is wrong. Such an unhealthy way of life, and a sad one at that, you will never know yourself, and no one will ever really get to know you because you refuse to believe that you have ever done anything wrong. In your eyes, you are owed something, anything and everything. I feel horribly sad for you, one day you will look in the mirror and realize that all your failures were at your own hands. I hope on that day, you have at least one REAL friend around